As many of you may know, we live a Christian-led life which forms the foundation for our household. Our job as parents, our first priority is to raise our daughter and hopefully future children in the ways of God. We all know that good morals and values should start at home. As parents we want to make sure we do it “right” when raising our kids. As an early childcare provider, I am trained to assess, observe, teach and care for the basic needs of young children. I remember close friends and family telling me oh you won’t have to worry you already know so much. This will come to you so easily. And each time I would respond with a “well, I’m not so sure.”
Isaiah 41:10
When we first brought our little one home, I was overwhelmed with the thought of us being on our own. Even with all my experience and knowledge; after my labor and delivery, let’s just say that I was far from confident. Everything I knew went straight out the window. We were prepared, but I felt so unprepared because of the intimidating task of raising a human being. Like most parents we definitely did not receive a manual from the hospital, telling us what to do. God, on the other hand, did give us his word, the bible (the tool) for human life. He didn’t just create and placed us on earth without a guide. In fact, everything on whom we are, our purpose is in his word. God has also given us instructions and examples on how to parent and raise our children in His ways. Trust, PRAYER and meditation on scriptures were not only my anchors during labor and delivery but also got me through my first weeks with an infant.
Fast forward >>
The past two weeks we’ve been noticing that our little guppy throws herself on the floor when she’s upset and cries whenever we say “no” or give her “the look.” My husband finds this very difficult and doesn’t really know how to respond. I, on the other hand, find this behavior challenging but not impossible to correct. My advice is to communicate what behavior you want to see, use words and body language, make eye contact and use your voice to emphasize. God has entrusted us with this gift and so whenever we feel overwhelmed.
So, what tools do we use?
My hon and I work toward giving our daughter tools that will help her build a Christlike character. It starts with love, patience and kindness, helping her learn what is appropriate behavior and attitude. We instill discipline and enforce rules by being an example. We lead by example showing her what’s right and what’s wrong, explaining as we go. Children are quick learners soaking up everything they see and hear. They adapt quickly and that’s why any routine, good habits and practices should be instilled when they’re young. God’s word is literally a life jacket! Discipline is a job given to parents, and we are instructed and responsible for their well-being. Explaining the who, what, when and why’s are crucial in helping our daughter understand and learn that our words matter! As she grows, we'll teach her what is means to fear God and honor your parents.
Consequences
Following through on consequences is important in child development. A consequence isn’t a bad thing. It simply means that there is a link between choices and results. I’ve seen so many parents give up in this department because it takes up too much of their energy. Children need and seek boundaries so that they’ll know what’s expected of them. Our sinful nature is to rebel when we don’t get our way. Sophia turned one in January and at this age she really doesn’t know better; that’s why it’s essential we teach her through our actions. Because we love her, our yes is “yes,” and no is “no.” We discipline her just as God does us. His mercies are never ending, and his word is our life jacket! We have one chance to raise our kids up in his ways so we need to take this privilege seriously, honor our given position and love our little ones.
Some verses on Family, parenting and children:
Philippians 4:6-7, James 1:17, Hebrews 12:11, Psalm 127:3-5, Proverbs 22:6, Titus 2:7, 1 Peter 5:3, Psalm 119:5, Deut 6:6-9, Psalm 127:4-7, Ephes 6:4, Proverbs 29:17.
XOXO, Niki
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